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Infertility Holiday Survival Guide


Unfortunately there is no magic cure for surviving the holidays while dealing with the sorrow of infertility, but I do have good news today. If you are battling infertility, know that you will get through this. It is possible to enjoy the holiday season this year while using the tips in today’s Infertility Holiday Survival Guide. 

This Infertility Holiday Survival Guide has practical tips to help you survive and maybe even enjoy the holiday season this year.

Unless God answers my prayers really soon, this upcoming holiday season will be the sixth I’ve faced while battling infertility. Six years of childless Christmas mornings with no sound of little excited feet running to the Christmas tree to find gifts from Santa. Six years of emptiness and tears amidst the hustle and bustle of the most wonderful time of the year.  Six years of struggling to find joy in what had always been my favorite holiday to celebrate before my world was turned upside down with one ugly word….infertility.

Every Christmas since we began our adventure to expand our family has been different for me, and some have been harder than others. There have been years when I could look at a group of children visiting Santa and have my hope renewed, and there have been years when it’s reduced me to tears and despair. Today I’m sharing some practical tips that have helped me get through the holidays year after year and it’s my prayer that they are useful for you, too.

Embrace your emotions.
Don’t try to hide your emotions, because it doesn’t work. Remember it’s OK to allow yourself to feel sad, depressed, angry or hurt. It’s normal to feel these emotions, and experiencing them is a natural part of the healing process.

Take a time out for you.
Holidays can be stressful for everyone, so it’s very important to slow down and take some time out for yourself. Read a book, get a massage, watch a movie, just do whatever brings you enjoyment and allows you to rest and relax during this busy time of year.

Just say no.
Give yourself permission to say no to events that may cause you stress.  Respectfully decline party invitations if you know there will be lots of babies or pregnant women attending. Say no to attending the early church service when families with small children will be attending and attend the late service instead. Repeat after me….it’s OK to say no, and don’t let yourself feel guilty about it. 

Be prepared for questions from family members and friends.
Chances are you’ll be questioned about your plans to have a family. Don’t feel obligated to give them information if you don’t want to, but don’t suffer in silence either. Discuss with your spouse and be prepared with an answer in advance.

Stay away from shopping malls.
Avoid the long lines of families with children waiting to visit Santa by shopping at small local boutiques or online instead. 

Start new traditions with your spouse.
Who says you must have children to start new family traditions? Remember you are a family with or without children, so go ahead and start new traditions with your spouse. Plan a trip, service project or special dinner.

Fight despair with gratitude.
It can be easy to focus on what you don’t have instead of what you do have. Lending a helping hand to others in need will give you the right perspective and help you become more intentional about expressing gratitude for the blessings in your life. 

Rely on your support system to get you through.
Don’t close yourself off to others, but instead lean on your family and friends for support. Share your feelings with those who you feel comfortable with and find comfort in those relationships.

Focus on the true meaning of the season.
At Christmas we celebrate the gift of baby Jesus, a symbol of hope to the world. Instead of thinking about Santa and gifts, spend time in thought and prayer. Let the love of Christ strengthen your heart and bring you hope this holiday season. 

Remember that this is only a season, and the holidays will eventually pass. Find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and use these tips to help you cope this holiday season. 

Battling infertility? Check out these posts:

  • You Are Not Alone
  • Finding Hope in the Midst of Infertility
  • Freedom From Infertility
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  1. harropaj says

    November 25, 2015 at 16:16

    I really heart touching post -thank you for stopping by at Pin Worthy Wednesday

    Reply
  2. Jane Hill says

    November 28, 2015 at 05:18

    What a courageous post, and eminently sensible. While not in your position I am very close to someone who is and she is in my thoughts constantly at this time. I think we, the rest of the world, need to be responsive and caring as well.

    Reply
    • Christie Selken says

      November 28, 2015 at 09:39

      Thanks, Jane…so true. I must admit that I never even thought of those suffering from infertility until it entered my world, and it has opened my eyes to the private suffering of others in so many ways. Your friend is very rich indeed to have someone like you thinking of her. Thank you so much for stopping by to read my post!!

      Reply
  3. Charlotte says

    November 30, 2015 at 14:05

    Very like ways to cope with loss of a loved one. Both painful.

    Reply
    • Christie Selken says

      November 30, 2015 at 18:35

      Yes, whether you’ve lost someone or lost the chance to have children, you must go through a grieving process. Unfortunately they both hurt and it takes time to heal.

      Reply
  4. Beverly says

    December 1, 2015 at 21:51

    Christie, your wise words and heartfelt advice to others suffering through this trial are beautifully written. I appreciate having you share this at Snickerdoodle Sunday. May you and others find solace and peace in your words.

    Reply
    • Christie Selken says

      December 2, 2015 at 09:41

      Thanks, Beverly. It is my hope that writing this helps someone through a difficult holiday season. Thanks for letting me share it over at your place! 🙂

      Reply

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